THIS WEEK IN FOUND: What to do when the belief or identity you've lived inside for years stops working, and why going back to your center is the first move. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. You get to a point and you can't figure out what happened. You believed in something for a long time. Maybe it was a faith, a career, a plan, a version of yourself. You gave it years. And now it sits there, and it doesn't land the way it used to. The first...
11 days ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: What happens when empathy becomes the default response to everything, at work and inside your own head. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. You already know the person. They show up about twenty percent of the time. When they do show up, they raise their hand for everything, ping everybody, send the emails, and when the work finally lands they put the high beams on it and collect the praise. The other eighty percent gets...
18 days ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: A sixty-second experiment that almost everyone fails, and what the failure says about who is actually running your attention. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. Before you read another line, try this. Set a timer for sixty seconds and stop thinking. Not slow down. Not breathe deeply. Stop. Most people last three or four seconds. Then something starts talking. A task you forgot. A conversation from Thursday you'd like to run...
25 days ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: A joke on a Saturday errand run turned into a closer look at the conditions we attach to love without ever saying them out loud. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. We were on the way to Costco. Saturday chores, the kind that stack up because the week doesn't leave room for them. Work, kids' activities, a couple of days off, then right back into it. We were joking the whole drive. Then my wife said one of those "if you love...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: A ten second experiment and what it reveals about the mind you never actually chose. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. Stop reading for a second. Don't finish this sentence in your head. Just stop. See if you can go ten seconds without a single thought showing up. Not a meditation. Not a technique. Just ten seconds of nothing. Go ahead. I'll wait. You probably didn't make it. Most people don't get past three or four seconds...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: A coworker who never learned how to say no, and what watching her break taught me about my own. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. I've always found that interesting, absorbing so much and trying to be there for everyone else, and then slowly, slowly you lose yourself and who you are. You're raising your hand for other people. No one's raising their hand for you. And you wonder why. In her situation, she's wondering why...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: A weekend with family, and what it revealed about aging, acceptance, and showing up for people who move slower than you do. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. The house was full this weekend. Family in from out of town, kids running through rooms that are usually quiet, that particular blend of wonderful and exhausting that only visiting relatives can create. Somewhere in the middle of it, I noticed something. My in-laws...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: This week we're looking at why the fatigue hits the second you're back at your desk. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. You just took a week off. Had the time of your life. Then day one back, the fatigue sets in, and you're already counting down to the weekend. If that's happened to you, you're not alone. But underneath it is something worth naming: a lack of contentment, a resistance to accepting where you're at right now....
2 months ago • 2 min read
THIS WEEK IN FOUND: Why doing less, on purpose, gets more handled than trying to move everything at once. Plus your weekly reflection question and one step worth taking before Sunday ends. Efficiency doesn't usually look like doing more. Most weeks, it looks like doing less, in the right order. I've been sitting with that this week. When there are ten things that all genuinely need attention, and none of them are going to wait forever, the instinct is to hold all ten in your head at once, so...
2 months ago • 1 min read